So, I kinda had a moment today when I was thinking about whether or not I should get back into online dating or not. Let’s compare online dating to our online business.
When it comes to online dating, you really have to put yourself out there. Like really…. Because everyone on the other side of the screen is completely judging you by your profile picture…and if they even read your profile, it better be convincing. If it isn’t… you deal with a lot of rejection and shut doors… even if you really are a great catch.
And then you see someone who really catches your eye and you send a little hello…conversation is flowing and you can’t wait to meet so you say “let’s meet up for coffee” but then the messages slow down and instead of acting like you would in real life and just take it one day at a time… online it’s different… time is ticking, you could be missing another minute with your soul mate…and so you lose patience and become that whiny, “why don’t you like me, are you not interested in me, are you talking to someone else…” Suddenly you have a complex and you decide dating really isn’t for you anyway, even though there is that slight hope that…if only someone would give you a chance…..nudging in the back of your mind.
But let’s say you do meet someone for coffee, and it turns into date number 2, date number 3…oh man, things are starting to get serious… like announce your relationship status to facebook… all you do is post pictures about how in love you are and how happy you are….but again, on the other side of the screen people are wondering….are they a good match, are they really that happy or are they just putting on a show? Then heartbreak….delete profile, delete pictures, block number…solitude. You decide you are better off as an old spinster and never give love a chance again…because why bother when it’s always going to end? Yet that little spark of HOPE never leaves you…because maybe someday, it’ll happen…if you just keep being you. You don’t when it will happen, so you put yourself out there again, hoping you have found the one.
So, online business…. We have to put ourselves out there. And even though we might be feeling a little desperate, you can never show that desperation because it’s a big turn off. You deal with a lot of rejection. Sometimes people are immediately turned off because they think all you want to do is make a sale, and…some might just not be that in to you…so you put on your adult underwear and you take on the day. You post your progress pictures, you show the world you are making a difference…and then you hit a wall. You didn’t reach your goals. You didn’t advance in rank. You rushed into it based on a feeling and ignored logic. So, you think about quitting….but you KNOW you can do this deep down inside of you, and so you post a CTA and you plant another seed because you know you’ll be a great leader as soon as someone gives you the chance.
All this to say…believe in yourself because any moment, you could turn someone’s life around and live happily ever after.